I watched the complete Chris Brown interview. I hope he uses this extremely unfortunate situation to make better choices and educate his fans about the devastating consequences of abuse . Where was the uproar back in the day, when ordinary women were beaten because their “men” were trying to beat them into submission, or came home pissed off because of a bad day at work, or the kids were too loud, or the food was cold??? Where were the anger management classes when OJ beat the crap out of his wife? Where was the uproar when ordinary women were killed by the same “men” who had restraining orders on them??? What a joke!
When is enough enough? When will women stop making excuses for these sorry a** men? No one has the right to hit you. If you had been created in a factory with EVERLAST written across your forehead, then yes, are supposed to be hit because that’s was punching bags are for!!! If he hits you once HE WILL HIT YOU AGAIN! Either he has to go or you do because if his abuse has graduated from verbal to physical, he is already abusing you psychologically (because you’re still there) and he will very likely kill you. A person who loves you will not abuse you. The abused cannot fix the emotional problems of their abuser. You can be as intelligent a woman as you want, YOU CANNOT FIX THE EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS OF AN ABUSIVE MAN! Leave before he kills you! If you have female children, she may that getting her a** kicked is something she has to look forward to…it’s normal because “daddy loves me and he said he’s sorry.” If you have male children, you may be teaching them that beating women is acceptable because “daddy was very tired so I shouldn’t have made him angry, it was my fault and daddy said he was sorry.” In some cases, children know that these behaviors are unacceptable, I know from personal experience.
So, I ask again…when is enough enough? If you have to control a woman’s mind in order to get her to love you, what is wrong with you? If I allow a man to control where I go, what I wear, what I eat, what I say or any other aspect of my life, what is wrong with me? When will we learn to love ourselves so we can see through the wolf’s sheep costume? When will we learn that we can excel in spite of our environments and that education is the key to that? It’s only too late to learn when you’re dead.
When will we stop thinking that it’s cute for our one, two and three year old children to engage in sexually provocative dancing? I recently watched a video of a baby on a table, dancing like an adult. This was a baby…in a diaper…dancing on a table. Now, this family had what looked like a sheet on the window, a large flat-screen TV, a camcorder (obviously), and a baby, standing on a table shaking her diaper covered butt. I’m thinking, is there pole dancing in her future? Did they pass by the window treatments on their way to purchase the TV and camcorder in electronics? How can you possibly think this is cute? Will they expend as much energy on books and other learning materials to ensure this girl can read, write, speak (clearly) and conjugate a verb, so she can complete in this ever changing world? Will she be taught how to obtain wealth and become financially stable so when she meets her equally financially stable mate, she can lay her money next to his? Or, will hundreds of dollars be spent on gold jewelry, sneakers and clothes before she is old enough to attend school? And when she is old enough to attend school, will she go to school hungry and ignorant, but carrying a Coach bag and wearing $100 sneakers? Will they teach her how to respect herself and others, that her mind is a terrible thing to waste and how she should never allow anyone to treat her disrespectfully???
Our children to so much ugliness and often, we are the ones who exposed it to them. We allow society to dictate our morals by thinking it’s OK when Britney and Madonna kiss on live TV, but when Janet’s boob is mistakenly exposed on the same program that probably had Viagara commercials, and we learn that Tiger been cheating on his wife with a cocktail waitress (C’mon, really???…a cocktail waitress???) we act as if someone knocked us upside the head with a moral compass.
I am a huge fan of a cable series and two movies that clearly pushed the envelope of morality: The Soprano’s, The Godfather and The Godfather II. Yes, they were very violent but I also learned a lot from watching them. I also have enough sense to separate them from my reality (Michael Corleone’s guilt-ridden decision regarding his brother Freddo. The anguish on his face, priceless…good grief, I LOVE that movie!!), I digress…
Our spiritual and political “leaders” lead the battle cry for morality but they are the most heinous offenders. Jesse Jackson, please. The Governor of South Carolina says that the woman with whom he is having an affair is his soulmate. His mistress is his soulmate…not his wife! Is he any better than the writers and producers of the music we listen to and videos we watch, that promote all kinds of questionable activity? NOPE!!! Wearing a suit and tie doesn’t make you better than the man wearing the sagging pants and throwback jersey. When the rubber meets the road you respond to the same visual stimuli and you are just as likely to cheat on your wife, beat your girlfriend or abuse drugs…being hooked on prescription painkillers is no better than being an alcholic or a pot-head (just ask a mother whose child was killed by someone driving under the influence of some foreign substance).
Listen (you know what I mean 
): Think.For.Yourself. Don’t allow someone to dictate their morality to you. No flawed human being has the right to do so. Don’t let anyone abuse you in ANY form. I am no prude and no angel; I am responsible for the decisions I make and God will determine where I will spend eternity.
Peace…
