Good morning. Watched Robin Roberts’ interview with Chris Brown this morning; would like to see more of it though. Chris Brown is such a young man and he reaches millions of young people (many of whom are abusing their girlfriends). Robin asked what could be done to highlight the devastation caused by domestic abuse (I’m paraphrasing). Perhaps Chris’ response is in the rest of the interview because I didn’t hear it (I was also getting dressed for work and talking back to the TV. Yes, I talk to the TV). We all know that abuse takes many forms: physical/sexual, verbal, mental. I would step it one step further by saying that a lack of self-esteem is another form of abuse; self-abuse. People do to us what we allow them to do. An abuser studies you and learns when and how to push your buttons. An abuser takes gradual steps in trying to control you. You must learn to study yourself. Learn what pushes your buttons so you know how to walk away from situations and people. A person who will abuse in ANY FORM does NOT love you. Love is kind, and patient, and long-suffering. A person who loves you wants the best for you. An abuser dislikes himself (or herself) and steps on you to build THEIR self-esteem. Why do we think we can fix people? Because as women, it is our very nature to nurture. Let me back up, I don’t believe for one moment that Chris Brown is an abuser; I believe he got caught up in the moment. I also believe that this was a blessing in disguise for him because he will now: think before he acts; and learn to identify the qualities in a woman whose personality has the potential to take them THERE; and try to nip that relationship in the bud before it blossoms into something ugly. Women, know your power and use it for good (Eh Hmm)…Can’t we all just get along???
Chris Brown’s interview with Robin Roberts 12/3/09-GMA
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